If you ever Order a Girl a Drink?
An attractive young woman approaches you in a bar. Before you can figure out how it became your lucky night, you hear this: “Do you want to buy me a glass or two?”
Or you’re talking with an unusual beauty, or even dancing, and she provides you with the old, “Are you currently going to purchase me a glass or two?”
So how do you handle this situation? Buy her a glass or two or not? And what does one say in this regard?
If you’ve been around the block only a little, you’ve probably come to appreciate that it’s usually not recommended to answer these drink requests in a confident fashion. For a lot of reasons…
1.) Club drinks are generally very expensive and will drain your wallet fast.
2.) She may possibly not be attracted for you at all and simply be using one to finance her night out.
3.) She may already be out with a guy, and once she gets her drink, she returns to him and completely ignores you (it happens).
4.) Most importantly, buying her a glass or two runs the danger of framing your interaction as one where you’re seeking her approval! You are the pursuer and she could be the prize that really must be won.
Now, it’s possible that she really IS into you, and this is just her way to get at know you better 外約茶. If that’s the case it’s doubtful that she even cares in regards to the drink. Remember, I said possible, not probable. Or there might be some chemistry going on as you are able to feel and she says it.
Is it “simpler to be safe than sorry” or to “throw caution to the wind” and buy her the drink anyway?
That begs the question: so how exactly does one protect themselves in cases like this without looking stingy, rude, or just odd? And so how exactly does one refuse the request without running her off?
The key here’s to show the tables, and not allow it to be about buying a glass or two to select her up, but about her asking for a glass or two because she wants to select YOU up!
This is a subtle difference. In one scenario, you’re putting yourself at a disadvantage. In another, you’re making it so she needs to prove for you she’s worth your time and money.
So let’s say the girl asks you “Do you want to buy me a glass or two?” Try smiling, tilting your mind and saying, “I dunno. Last time I did a woman tried to take advantage of me later.”
This really is important because you’re not saying “Yes” or “No.” You’re steering the interaction in a different direction, one where you are in control.
The girl will either laugh, look at you funny, or ask you to inform the story. If she asks for a story, give her a great one. Or even, say. “Think it’ll work again now?”
It’s funny how often this creates a great situation for you. Many, many women say yes, and will often pull a seat to talk to you about it. If she says no, then tell her you appreciate her honesty, turn around and leave. Oddly enough, women like this have a tendency to seek you out later in the evening.